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What our readers think about web dating?

Here is the questionnaire we have sent to some of our readers, men and women who kindly accept to answer. Our inquiry has no statistic intention, only an instant picture of what is in the air by our time.

Questions
You have used or use currently a dating website: meetic, yahoo, easyflirt...
What is your opinion about this subject? Thank you to answer the following questions. Feel free to add other remarks, they are welcome. You are not obliged to answer all the questions!!!!


- Why did you use a web dating site ?
- Before registering what did you expect? Actually what have you found?
- Now what do you know this kind of site, what is your opinion? How do you define such website ?
- What prevents people from meeting in the real life?
- What are the advantages and the disadvantages of the virtual datings?
- Did you meet people after a contact on a dating website?

- How do you make your choice? What do you avoid?
- How did you supplement your “profile”? Completely, partially, at least? Did you publish your photograph? -
Which image do you want to give you? Which information you do not want to give?
- Would you advise a friend to register on a dating website? Why?
-Whom would you advise?
-Whom would you disadvise registering you on a dating website? Why?
- Do you think that these services are mostly intended to women? To men? Why?
- After having used a dating website, what do you expect really?
- In your opinion, who uses these services? How do you explain their success?

 

 

A "home made" decision!

Most of our readers decide to register because of good opinions of a friend, a relative... Nowadays, it seems to be very fashioned, specially in big cities. People in their thirties, find unusual a person who is NOT registered on a dating website... Older as younger people often hesitate a long time before...
Everybody’s search for a great love story, but most of them only find a poor love affair, or virtual contacts. Some people stay at this step.


Are they ready?

Men and women think that people they meet on dating websites are not ready for love. They are just getting out another love story, they suffer a lot, are not sure of what they really want. Sometimes, they try to use others like toys, it reassures them.
Everybody agree on the fact that they do not want to be alone... .

Selection criteria are very important, usually people are able to draw a very precise portrait of the person they are looking for. But Usually they admit that they could fall in love with somebody who is different from these criteria...


The "catalogue attitude" is not a myth!`

In fact, users think that the form with many physical details makes them think in a “catalogue attitude”.

Find somebody in the neighborhood.

Many people want to find somebody in their neighborhood: the “girl or the boy next door”... So they accept that their registration do not really protect their privacy. Ann, 29, reports that a sport teacher of her son, said to her: “ Hey, You are on Meetic!”, “You too”, answered Ann!!
A person who writes well...

Most of women have hight criteria for language, they do not contact men who badly writes, only a few men do the same..

... Good looking...
Of course, the picture is a hot topic! It not only reveals how you look, but what you want to show to others, and what kind of relation you have to your own body...

Our readers agree to admit they carefully chose their picture, they wanted to present themselves as they are in the daily life. Naturally, they select their dates looking at their pictures with a similar care!!!!

What is showed, and what is hidden

On most of dating websites, there are questions you answer to build your profile (body appearance, social status, favorites activities...) It is interesting to discover what questions stays blank... Dan, 32, doest not want to precise how much money he earns, Sofia, 45 doest not want to say what is attractive in her appearance, she explains “If I say that my buttocks are the most attractive part of my body, men will understand that I am looking for sex only, and of course, that is not true...”
All the people who talk to us agree to say they would advise a friend to use a dating website. They find these services very convenient, it allows them to meet a lot of people from very different backgrounds. The playful aspect is also very pleasant....

YES or NO ?

Most would not advise people they judge weak or vulnerable , because they think it exists some traps and dangers. People who lie, who try to manipulate, who are not fair, or, worse, thieves. Our readers never report that they have been disturbed by mad persons or some suffering of sexual perversion.

But as a whole, they are declared fully satisfied! Some of our readers wanted to testify in this direction because they really found the person whom they sought: Marc explains: “I divorced at 43 years, I remained a long time in a kind of inner silence, then, a friend of mine told me to try a dating website, I did not believe it could work, anyway, I registered. I met many women, and several months later, I found the one I waited for. I would never have thought that could arrive to me, but we felt in love almost immediately. But, we took time to discover each other, now, life has got a delicious taste!“
Sylvie, 48 years declares that she did not meet the soul mate, but, that enabled her to meet many friends, and to decorate her loneliness of some light and furtive love affairs. “It is a really interesting experiment, I really do not regret having dared to register me… “