December 2005: Women sexual Pleasure, a delightful revolution

Three Sexual Levels

Desire: ia picture suggested by a painting of André Julien

The three levels of sexuality

It appears very important to understand the idea of various levels of sexuality, because it could explain various expectations, the various pleasures and various frustrations related to each level. So let us put this hypothesis:
The sexuality of the man and the woman structure on three levels:
- An instinctual level, registered voter in our genes in connection with the instinct which pushes us to reproduce us.
- A compulsive level: it is the impulse with the other but directed towards oneself; one is useful oneself of the other to satisfy his clean “desires” and his desires. It is a typical egocentric sexual behaviour , that shows similarities to masturbation.
- A relational level: there one does not take any more, but one give to the other. Men and women necessarily do not even play the same sexual level. The instinctual and compulsive aspects appear much more developed at the man than at woman who privileges the well more relational aspects.
What leaves also think that the sexuality of the man is more often a sexuality of immature teenager.

Men and women do not necessarily play at the same sexual level
In other words, in the expression: SEXUAL INTERCOURSE, the woman privileges the word INTERCOURSE, whereas for the man, it would be the word SEXUAL.
Without wanting to approach a forthcoming file which will treat homosexuality. At the homosexual masculine, sexuality generally stops at the compulsive level and that without wanting to carry any value judgment.

a representation of philosophical desire
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Pleasure and Desire
They are perfectly indissociable, even if some claim that they can have pleasure without desire like the reverse. A rapid overflight of the literature specialized shows that 60% of the women reach easily with the orgasm with starting point clitoral. The following figures are generally retained: e Plaisir et le Désir

40% of the women have no orgasm; neither clitoral nor vaginal.

60% of the women have a clitoralorgasm

40% of the women have an orgasm clitoral and vaginal.

Any woman normally made up with the possibility of discovering and of knowing both

What is the utility of the clitoris?

That can appear strange to ask the question so much as each one believes to know the answer through abundance information. Feminist movements of the sixties contributed to develop the clitoral pleasure, until sometimes excluding any other possibility of reaching the extase. It is obvious that at the beginning of its sexual life, the clitoris is enough to bring pleasure and excitation, its role is well-known besides. However, without wanting to minimize the role of the clitoris, it can be judicious of to return to biological realities.

Here a comment of Gerard Verroust, PHD, University of Paris VIII, in reaction to the reading by what precedes.

I would like to add a scientific comment on function of the clitoris.
We are the heirs to a line of primates, and thus of mammals. In the human primate, sexually active permanently, sexuality has two biological functions: interindividual relation and reproduction. Whereas in the animals with oestrus sexuality is related only to reproduction. Human primate is biologically a social animal
In the mammals (including those with oestrus), period of excitation of the female in ovulation be accompanied by a pleasant secretion of taste which attracts the language of the male, odor of the pheromones having done it to come (sometimes by far). Vulva secretion attracts the language of the male. Licking the vulva, it licks the clitoris and this pleasure causes the opening of the vagina which the male penetrates. Function of the clitoris is indeed to be licked. And cyprine has a pleasant and personal taste. (from where the nice one name of “goudous” - soft taste - that they are given lesbians)
It is known that the coitus takes various forms at various mammals after this preliminary. In the dog for example, a large bulb located at the base of the penis gorges with blood and wedges the penis in the vagina of bitch throughout ejaculation.
Marie Bonaparte, groupie of Freud, had been made move the clitoris so that it is excited by the coitus which according to Freud was the only legitimate act. It is about as if a physicist faked an experiment to return its results in conformity with its theory…
Good courage,
In a friendly way,
Gerard Verroust (University Paris VIII).

Where does desire come from?

But, soon, this excitation is not enough any more to start the desire of a sexual relation. Many other factors intervene, the woman must want to allure, to feel available, attracting, to accept the advances of the man. From which does the desire come from the woman? Origins like the expression of the desire are varied, according to tendencies', one will call upon sometimes pure and hard biological reasons, putting forward the aspects of our animal human; other schools will stress social determinisms (cf Orgasm and Occident of Robert Muchembled, where it distinguishes through the centuries them social cleavages and the inequality in front of the pleasure). ; the tendency “all-psychiatrist” is hung up again with the Basque of the brilliant one recognized sex maniac Viennese! He would be not very realistic to privilege a particular origin: biology and determinisms mix with the history personal in a single experiment. There remains possible of to distinguish some significant phases in the evolution of the desire and female expectations. When she engages in in love affair, woman more or less consciously seeks to satisfy a fusional need, to do only one, to mix the bodies in a delicious pressure leading to the sensual extase and sentimental…

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Fusion desire and the antical myth of Androgyny

Androgyne moving. érard Pigeron. marsh2005.

The fusion desire comes from the myth of the Androgyne for his more remote origins. Here the most known version, it belongs to the famous dialogue of Plato (approximately 450 before JC) heading “the banquet” on the topic of the love.
Socrates joins together around him those of his/her friends and disciples who prefer the debate of ideas to the erotic charms of the players of flutes, queens of the “third half-time” ancient banquets.
The philosopher proposes to them to be expressed on a topic already universal: love…. Each one delivers its opinion, then the Master updates contradictions and reformulates problems.
Aristophane, when its turn has been just expressed, start by praising the infinite power of Eros:

It seems to to me that the men completely were unaware of power of Eros; if they knew it, they him imposing temples and furnace bridges, it would build would make sumptuous sacrifices; for the moment, nothing of such in its honor, whereas one would need it over all. It is, of all the gods, more the philanthropist, the guard of the human ones, and doctor of evils who, if they were cured, most perfect happiness would result from it for the race of men.

The ancient explanation is based on the original “nature” of the man Then, Aristophane explains the origin of this omnipotence of the love while reconsidering nature original of the man. (It is one of the explanation more current at that time, one finds other traces besides of them, in particular at the Empédocle philosopher.)

“Initially there were three kinds of men, and not two like today, masculine and female one; one third was composed of both others: the name in A remained, but the thing disappeared: then the real androgyne, species and name, joined together in only one being the male principle and the principle female; it is not thus any more, and the name alone is remained, like an insult. Then, each man the shape of a sphere had, with the back and the coasts in arc, four hands, as many legs, and two faces connected with a neck rounded, completely identical; for these two opposed faces, only one cranium, but four ears, them pudenda (sexual zones) in double, and all the remainder, that one can imagine, on the same model. ”

A super-powerful creature
This strange creature drew from its natural triple a terrible force, if powerful that it gave him soon audacity to defy the gods of Olympe. The latter, very likely, took this challenge very badly but hesitated as for the punishment. To kill purely and simply was embarrassing, because, put besides their pride disproportionate, they honoured the Gods, built temples to them, sang their praises… At this point in time Zeus had the idea to cut them into two!

“I believe that there is a means so that they remain men and that however, become less strong, those are delivered of their disproportion; I from there will cut myself each one in two, they will become weaker, and, at the same time, their number being grown bigger, they will be more useful to us; two members will be enough for them to walk; and if they us seem to repeat in impudence, I will cut them still in two, so that it will be necessary for them to advance with bell-foot. As soon as “known as, as soon as made: Zeus divided the men in two, like one cuts apple to make it dry, or the hard-boiled egg with a hair. Each one thus divided, it prescribed in Apollo to turn the face to him, and its half of neck on the side of the cut, so that to see itself well thus crossed, I' man took the direction of measurement; for the remainder that it cured it! ”

Zeus is annoyed and solved the “problem”
One still needed some divine do-it-yourself to see them human to take their final form, because, these halves were not succeeded, they hopelessly clung the ones to the others, and, separated were let decay, thus threatening their survival.
Zeus which did not miss imagination decided then to move their sex so that they can be coupled, instead of reproducing by sowing the ground with the manner of the cicadas which lay eggs….

From now on, to link itself, the creature provided with a penis should be based with that provided with a vagina, this fusion would carry them to the extase to point out their nature to them initial… Then, if the union were to take place between the man and the woman, of the children were the fruit, and if the male had suddenly linked itself with the male, satiety separated them soon, and returned them to their work and the other care of the life. From there the love comes which we have naturally the ones for the others: it brings back to us to our primitive nature, it makes very to join together the two halves and to restore us in our old perfection.

Men and women launch out in the search of their “half”
The men and the women since then are in search of their alter ego, and must manage the androgyne who sommeille in them, to make the best use of their female talents as masculines.
The Myth of the Androgyne appeared a long time in fabric of melts of the practices morals sexuality. Indeed, if one found his “half”, why seek another of them? Its half cannot be the same one sex, therefore why wish one of its representatives?
They is that, one can be mistaken and believe naively that one found what one seeks, before realizing that this choice is not satisfactory. In the continuation of its speech Aristophane explains without sourciller that this myth remain valid, even when one deals with people unsteady, always in search, men, women, even from both….
One finds today on the Net, of the “gay” sites which fit the cothurnus of Aristophane to justify them desires and homosexual and bisexual searches… This search of justification answers àsans doubt the climate of intolerance which causes the single thought.

Limits of the fusion project
If the fusional “project” is enough to feed the desire of the woman, it meets early or late the desire of child. The sexual relations are then justified bus registered in this project. It is only after, in the neighbourhoods of forty, waitings and desires first are satisfied, and much women enter strategies of avoidance of sexual relation: migraine, tiredness, lack of time… There are however women who continue to test desire throughout their life without it being possible to define various physics or physiological by report/ratio with those which lose their desire. The difference is not from this point of view, and it should be known that all the women can reach a pleasure optimal at the time of the sexual relations. A fundamental discovery makes it possible to identify with precision what differentiates the women wishing from not wishing. This discovery is based on work relating to the language and the analogical thought.

Clivage de l'Androgyne. érard Pigeron. mars 2005.

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Analogical Thought

What is the analogical thought?
To say the things simply, we think of various manners and at various levels of our conscience. Many people believe wrongly that their thought is like an interior voice, a kind of interior dialogue with which we discuss, let us hesitate, make decisions…. As it would be made it if one had opposite oneself an interlocutor. However, if the thought can cover this form, it has others well of them: mental representations, sensory representations. They are the affects and the feelings which build the thought that one says “analogical”.

desire symbol (japanese calligraphy)

How to define it?
Following work using hypnosis and the modified conscience states, we realized that our mind functioned permanently on two plans: a conscious plan and a non conscious plan, which does not mean unconscious.
The largest specialists in this field agree indeed to recognize the various plans of the thought. Antonio Damasio, in his book “conscience even of oneself ", evokes the existence of a non conscious thought which develops as in background of an activity cognitive conscious. It is what happens when one meets a person for the first time, consciously, we exchange information, establish a dialogue, and communicate. At the same time, our brain carries out an analogical “reading” of other information, like gestures, mimicry or the sound of the voice. This reading is carried out without the words, it takes into account directly the feelings, it enables us to create one overall impression, and to adapt us instantaneously with the situation.

The words represent our experience, it is never completely in the abstract!

If we think and speak about the friendship, we describe it like a relation privileged between two people calling upon certain emotions or some affects; but without in being really conscious, let us refer to our own experience of friendship, we will think, to speak about it, with a friend. Neuroscience researches showed that it was not possible to think in a completely abstract way, but that every thought, even conceptual was metaphorical. This explains why, the words lack of accuracy often confuse the map and the territory…

Our sexual behaviour reflects both our conscious and non conscious knowledge.

To take again a sexual example, each man and each woman has built, according to his or her experience, one to know conscious and a knowledge partly not conscious of its sexuality.
Never let us forget but the experience called upon sensory registers: sight, hearing, touch, sense of smell, taste which cannot be expressed without a analogical or metaphorical support.
If we take the example of a color: red; it will be red like a tomato, a fire engine, and so on… We will be able to say that the metaphor is rich of meanings and that there cannot be “non a direction”. Indeed not to want to see the red, obliges us to conceive it and to some extent to represent it.
In addition a feeling is A-temporal, i.e. apart from time.

The “black box”
This rich space of direction can be defined like a box: the “black box” (we refer here to the concept of bicameral conscience). In a state of hypnosis, the thought conscious, logical, rationalizing is put into light sleep, allowing the expression of the representations contained by the “black box” in the form of analogies or of metaphors.
It should be understood that sexuality is almost completely dependent on the involuntary nervous system or autonomous. Our only way of acting on the involuntary one pass via the “black box”. In hypnosis, we could use this metaphor: things are going on as if one had placed a video-projector on this famous box, projecting on a screen sensory and emotional representations related to the experience, while the dormant conscious part is nothing any more but observant.
The hypnotic experience is thus a state of double conscience. If we use a linguistic structure particular also calling upon the analogy or with metaphor, it is possible to intervene or modify these representations, and thus behaviours and perceptions which of it result and of course the best modifications are those conceived by the subject himself.
The example of the vaginism responsible for not consumed marriage or union is completely explicit demonstrations of this double conscience.

What does that picture evokes in your own experience?

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Knowledge is not enough

Painting of Jean-Jacques Bray

It is not enough to have knowledge in connection with sound anatomy and of its physiology, even if it is a good beginning. Important it is the mental representation, because it is this one which appears operative in the human sexual life.

Vaginism: the vaginal body exists and does not exist
Mrs F comes to consult because she is unable to have a normal sexual intercourse. She did not remember any sexual traumatism or other during its past. But, she has not built a valid representation of her vagina; in fact, that occurs as if she did not have any. That explains perfectly why Mrs F interprets any attempt at penetration like an intrusion in her body, the natural reflex of self protection produces a contraction of its muscles: penetration is impossible.

To build a representation of its vaginal body
Many women, when it represent them vagina imagine it like a hole, a vacuity, a vacuum, a cavity, but very seldom like a body equivalent with the male body. However, one could find this representation in old medicine: The famous one anatomist Andre Vesale, in his work Of “humani corporis machina” (1543) shows a drawing representing a vagina whose form is exactly that of a penis… to back!

To hide and be unaware of for better erasing!
This equivalent representation of the sexes did not hold well a long time. The century known as of Enlightment , then them following carried a fatal blow to the libertines, either by advancing the traditional threat of the Hell of the Churches, but by holding up the arm avenger of science. The hell was from now on ground, it extended its kingdom by propagation of the venereal diseases but also of tuberculosis. A culture of the continence and moderation took the step on the relative tolerance of the previous centuries. There was no equality between the men and the women in the field of sexual freedom and, like, the best means of erasing something is still to make pretence be unaware of that that exists, much of women are not aware of their vagina and still less use that it can make nor pleasures that it can to them get.
As long as the vagina does not exist on the level of its representation as a body, the woman undergoes them sexual relations until the day when, the insufficiency of helping desire, it does not support them any more and comes from there to reject them.
In the fantasmatic in love one with the woman, fusion is a fundamental data, in the biological plan too.

Are women like angels, deprived of sex?

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Biology and Sexuality

The first finality of sexuality
Nature provided the man and the woman with a sex of which the form is obviously complementary. One is convex, the other is concave. As we can it to include/understand this complementarity is a need; it allows the meeting and the fusion of the gametes which are the female ovule and the male spermatozoon for survival of our species in the child who will be born from it.
We include/understand as well as the finality first sexuality is procreation.
With this intention, this same nature equipped us with an instinct: sexual instinct depend on the good development functional of our sexual organs that are the penis and it vagina; increase in the secretion of the hormones sexual and more particularly of the androgens (male hormones, also secreted, but into weak quantity by the woman), at the time of puberty will be person in charge for the development of the sexual instincts.

To differentiate Impulse and Desire
This physical feeling that is the impulse is with to differentiate from the sexual desire which fits in one mental development specific to the man and the woman. The man secreting naturally more androgens is animated stronger, more intense impulses and more frequent that the woman.
Especially that this impulse is responsible for a tension who will find his resolution only in ejaculation gratified of an endorphin secretion (“morphine endogenous manufactured by the brain). That explains the more or less intense masturbation activity of the teenager and of the young male adult. Thereafter, at the time of its sexual relations, it will make in fact only to continue it even behaviour, replacing its hand by the vagina female. What makes us say, that in fact good numbers men only continue to masturbate at the time of their report. Let us not forget that this mechanism is involuntary bus registered in our genetic inheritance. This type of behaviour is mainly person in charge for premature ejaculation.

The clitoris is not a small penis!
The woman has a clitoris, functional corollary and instinctual of the penis, although of different structure: indeed the clitoris is not a small penis. Its stimulation causes without any doubt an intense pleasure with the woman, resolution of secondary tensions of its impulses sexual. But its essential function is to start a good vaginal lubrication facilitating the penetration of the penis and thus to carry out the achievement of function first of the sexuality which is the reproduction.
We can think that for the great majority of women, it acts more than one impulse with respect to pregnancy and of the child that a true desire of child and it is more on this level than this locates the gratification of the sex act. We include/understand well that beyond this desire of child, the woman can at least test only one weak attraction with respect to a penetration which is not justified any more, for it.

To make love to communicate its feelings
The sexual relation will not have a direction that if it allows to express its feelings in love with respect to the man with whom it shares his life. He can be also justified by a desire of seduction, to feel “normal”, fear of being given up, to have peace in its household and to avoid very called in question.
It is necessary for us thus well to distinguish what is about the impulse and what is about the desire. In manner simplistic, we could say that the impulse is the share of animality of our sexuality, whereas the desire is what makes to us more human, although these two “feelings ” sometimes are very mixed and of a difficult distinction.
On this subject and without wanting to generalize, it seems that female sexuality is naturally less “animal ” that male sexuality; this last being subjected more to its impulses.

On becoming actress and creative of her sexuality
In her fusion search, the woman in love seeks unconsciously to rebuild this androgyny mythicalwith her partner. And to arrive there, the first stage consists in rocking towards an active attitude, i.e. in occurrence to use its vagina like true body a little similar to its hand which cherishes, étreint, stimulate, excites, seizes, cajôle or alleviates….At this point in time it becomes fully actress of its sexuality.
The desire in love fusional justifies and explains mechanisms of the sexual desire.
As soon as the woman manages to represent her vagina like an active body, the direction which it gives to sexual relations changes whole with the whole, it can finally to discover a new pleasure, extatic which fills all its waitings sensual and in love: the orgasm with vaginal starting point.

The Dame is handling the little bird...

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The G spot, a still annoying topic

The most significant zone of the vagina with regard to pleasure is at the level of the first third (the third external) and of its former wall i.e. the zone of vagina which goes from the base of the bladder and which is in contact with the urethra in all its length. The fabric constituting this zone is spongy fabric like fabric of male nipple and which one also finds around the male urethra. This richly vascularized zone, is particularly sensitive it becomes turgescent with moment of the excitation and “inflates”. This zone cannot be summarized at a “spot” it acts well rather of a territory. “G” corresponds in the name of its “inventor” Dr. Graffenberg.
This discovery did not fail to be exploited in a simplistic and caricatural way, as if it were enough to press on the button to start an orgasm! Human sexuality could not be compared with unspecified machinery it was sophisticated, thus, the such alarming spectre, the point of controversy emerges it periodically. Let us recall in the passing, that this zone erotogenic is already known under the name of “kanda” in practice of Tantra or “black pearl” for the Taoists.
It would seem that the vaginal pleasure is born with the level from the urethra as at the man; but all the vagina can to be excited and become a source of pleasure, although it does not have a innervation as rich as that of clitoris or of the zone “G” in question. The vaginal pleasure depends on the way in which the woman succeeded in living her vaginal body and to build representations of them positive, and active.
This zone is often badly stimulated during the report/ratio sexual in the traditional position known as of the missionary where the man is lengthened on the woman. Discover its characteristic zone “G” can be done easily by an ex simple self exploration. To entrust this exploration to the lover fingers can be a more delicious adventure.

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Obstacles to desire

“Locks” of Gilbert Boyer, artist plastics technician and Canadian poet. “Poetry, if it is accessible to all, is not visible with all; as these locks were not it with all those which, daily, passed to side; like these hundred words, these hundred verbs, these hundred flowers who were read only by some.” The locks of Gilbert Boyer were exposed in the town of Lille (France), they carried a engraved verb, were closed but no access prohibited…

Often invisible obstacles
A certain number of obstacles, frightening, but far to be insurmountable interpose on the course erotic of many women. Majority of documents which treat desire of the woman and especially means of stimulating it pass beside the problem. difficulty is not so much on the level of the sexual desire but rather desire to test it: what is inhibited is the desire to have desire.
The women who complain to miss desire, actually find, blocked in on this side door which open on the sexual desire.
In a very general way, all that comes to block curiosity, the excitation of the discovery, the desire for knowing, to test, to adapt themselves is opposed to the sexual desire.
When a woman does not want to avoid herself, to be capped to make up, be done beautiful, or do not want to meet people, it is rare that it can test desire sexual.

The obstacles come from several sources:
On the personal level, initially, one often meets even alarming devalued representations concerning the sex, sexual organs of the partner, the sex act, erotic caresses, and other softnesses. Repressive educational models
These representations take their source in the model educational when it is repressive as it is often the case in certain social backgrounds. In France as in England, the century victorien imposed straightforwardly dictatorial behaviors of prudery, with less in the middle-class classes. One went until to mask the feet of the pianos judged obscenes according to criteria of the time.
Strategy of masking, gumming or lapse of memory of reality consists in veiling what annoys or what excites, one does not see any more the object and thus, it thus does not pose any more problem.

"chercher" (to look for)

Social control

The social pressure well quickly takes over repressive education, the woman had to be satisfied with social roles very limited and strictly defined during centuries: mother or prostitute, at other stages of its life, invisibility was imposed to him.
Although the things changed much in Western societies, in particular since the Sixties, it remain however some slags learnedly maintained by certain currents thought.
During centuries, until the end of the Victorienne era, the religion had regarded the woman as “by lustful definition”, wishing and incompetent to force itself, which came to justify the various forms of oppression and of repression in its opposition. To express its desire towards sound in love, or even her husband was regarded as one sin.

“Brilliant” Dr Freud invention: the desire of penis !

Extremely of this observation, a few years later, Freud imagined that the women were “by nature” frustrated beings bus always in search of inaccessible, animated that they were by an odd evolution of original sin: the desire of penis…. And yes, to have a penis, here are which gave the capacity, right to the word, but especially right to the pleasure…
The man could thus well quietly continue with to make believe that it takes as a starting point ideals, while the woman would henceforth bait herself to want a penis… This new cleavage of the sexes allowed especially that nothing could to change in the moral and social order of the time.
Other movements then recovered the brilliant one idea of our virtuous Viennese and gave to the clitoris a place of choice, going until denying the difference between the orgasm with starting point clitoridien and that with vaginal starting point. Wasn't the clitoris, this “forgotten” a “small penis”? The woman was going finally to become just equalizes it of the man, in smaller…
This manner of considering the things served a long time as background with the repression and the inhibition of the desire… The search of the equality often masked that, more fundamental, of freedom. We must too to recognize that considerable approaches do not have brought a real help to the women who wished to assume for good their femininity in his dimensions sensual and original.

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Therapy

Charming creature named "Desire" others pictures on the author website

Why the “receipts” are they often ineffective?
Randomly let us open a handbook of sexology to the use of general public, there exists about it as much as one could not indicate one of them in particular… What does one find there? Roughly the same purring well thinking, composed of receipts which prove inoperative to come to assistance of the women who suffer from a lack of desire and an absence from pleasure. Worse still, these receipts can worsen them difficulties by adding a good amount of culpability there. Human sexuality is not a business of mechanics nor of gymnastics, however, it is almost always under this caricatural form which it is presented and explained. The speech of well the pensance sexual, does not reflect individual realities more the pornography does not describe them! This lack of effectiveness is explained at least for two reasons, on the one hand, the donors and donneuses of receipts do nothing but reflect their own representation of sexuality, even if their good intentions are perfectly sincere… It is indeed quite difficult to represent something to which one cannot attach his own experiment, his perceptions and representations sensory. The experiment of the vaginal orgasm is really specific, a woman who did not test it can represent it with difficulty, even less to evaluate waitings or to give really useful councils. In revenge, when it manages to test it, it knows it immediately. The second reason which returns the majority of the receipts inoperative, it is that they do not apply to the good moment of the course. It is a little as if one tried to make run a snail, not having legs, them councils or conditionings that him would be lavished to him would not be of any help. For the desire and the pleasure, the receipts are relevant only as from the moment when one has the desire to have desire. A work on mental representations is an essential precondition. Then, the receipts could be tested with greediness and delight…

Change our way of understanding problems
We can approach under a completely new angle disorders of the desire and the pleasure to female, by helping the woman to build a representation of its sex which maybe, already much more harmonizes some with nature, and especially much more effective on the way of the pleasure.
After having eliminated from possible obstacles to the desire. It is a question of helping the woman to modify her representations with the direction where hear we it and not only on one cognitive level, of its sex, the sex of its partner and of feel that she wants to give to her sexual relations.

How does the therapy occur?
Some talks are generally enough to modify the sexual representations, and to build some news, positive and gratifying. It is necessary however that the woman achieves a simple exploration of her body vaginal, in order to acquire an anatomical and physiological representation personal.
Exceptionally, the use during 1 or 2 meetings of a probe of magnet-stimulation like those used at the time of rehabilitation périnéale following one childbirth can facilitate the awakening of the vaginal body.

To become actress of her sexuality
The woman then takes very quickly conscience that it becomes really actress of its sexuality. To make love acquired a new direction for it, which causes appearance of a desire hitherto unknown, provided that it always tests enough attraction and of feelings towards its partner so that it reaches this desire of fusion by “taking it” in it by the means of “this metaphor” which is his sex in erection.
If this work on these representations makes opposite with face, is not sufficient although using the analogical language, we will use the hypnosis which will give access to him more easily the resources of its imaginary.
If all prerequisites of availability physics and psychic and of course of that of sound partner are joined together, the woman can enjoy fully of all dimensions of its femininity in some weeks.
Let us not forget however that that will often require changes at the partner, like the resolution of a problem of premature ejaculation.
From this moment, the woman and the man will be able to live and play their sexuality on an equal footing.

"Cécile", Odile Sergent, sculptrice

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