Baby on board... Pregnancy and sexuality
The ninth month.
The future family plan is set up, in an
enthusiastic and impatient, but sometimes also tense atmosphere! During
this "final straight", numerous questionings rise within the
couple, and sexuality can then be there affected. The belly is now very
impressive, but does not necessarily affect the regularity of sexual intercourses,
which frequency however drops. Indeed, the woman’s weight causes
fatigability, insomnia and respiratory difficulties decreasing her availability
and desire.
It is necessary to adapt to the physical constraints through love positions
some women might consider more unusual; obviously, the man has to be behind
or on the side, what can ill-at-ease some more conformist persons. The
dialogue with the partner can then turn out quite helpful! Furthermore,
psychologically, the couple can have experienced very negatively the physical
modifications. Stretch marks, and silhouette degradation can block the
man, and the woman can feel the same disgust facing her own body. The
fear of remaining damaged physically in a durable way can also frighten
her. This very point, added to the fear of the delivery, the pain, the
epidural, and the fear of a premature delivery or complications are definitely
not helping! And we know that anxiety and stress inhibit the sexual desire
and destroy the necessary relaxation required for a satisfying sexual
relation. The partner is more and more afraid of hurting the child during
the sexual relations and can even perceive the foetus as an intruder or
have difficulty in seeing the future mother as a lover …This last
month is thus a long and hard test for the couple, but communication,
understanding and especially tenderness, often allow to limit the damages
and to preserve a good atmosphere. So, when the sexual harmony persists,
the sweetness and the affection are much more labelled during sexual relations.
